Intimate Partner Murder - Books/Workshops

Margie's Gifts

Her love gives us strength

To face our terrible loss.

She guides us as we search

For meaning in her senseless death.

She brought us Sam and Wanda

And all the survivors of homicide.

To love and support us.

When losing her is too much to bear.

Margie led us to helping others to

see the dangers of domestic

violence.

She left us Calie for comfort.

Her spirit is with us everywhere.

We fear death less, treasure life

more,

Margie's gift - no broken promises.

...Shirley Pierce Bostrom

August 16, 1999

Written almost three years

after Margie's murder at the

hands of her husband.

Domestic violence occurs in 60% of marriages and is the most underreported crime.

90% of battered women reported their children were present when they were beaten.

Abuse is about POWER and CONTROL, NOT about passion or love! Abuse is NOT okay!

"Funny - He Doesn't Look Like a Murderer:

But Margie is Dead"

In this nonfiction account of her daughter's murder, Shirley warns that domestic violence can happen to anyone. Margaret Bostrom, a Ph.D. in clinical psychology, worked for the Federal Bureau of Prisons and was a victim of domestic homicide. Facts about domestic violence are intertwined with the family's story.

"Abby's Dilemma:

My Best Friend is Being Abused"

This young adult novel addresses issues in a friendship and a healthy dating relationship versus dating an abuser, which the author recognizes and exposes as dangerous. Abby's best friend Missy is being abused, but she won't admit it. Abby knows Missy is in danger, so she seeks adult help. Missy is able to leave the abuser safely because friends, family and involved adults support her.

Programs

Funny - He Doesn't Look Like a Murderer:

But Margie is Dead

Our personal story of loss, grief and advocacy is told

in this PowerPoint presentation.

Pain-Pen-Pad: Writing, a Tool for Healing

Participants will experience writing as an effective

tool for understanding their grief.

Abby's Dilemma: My Best Friend is Being Abused

Shirley's young adult novel about teen dating violence

and Teaching Guide make a teen-friendly presentation

for adults and teens.

Consultants-At Adult Domestic Violence Fatality Review Team Committee Meetings

The Bostroms share their knowledge about victims'

viewpoints.

"A Teaching Guide for Abby's Dilemma"

This guide provides detailed information, discussion questions and activities to reinforce and expand the students' knowledge about friendships and dating relationships.